Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Insert foot in mouth

The only conversation I had with anybody at church on Sunday:


Woman: "How many months?" (gesturing at my stomach)
Me: "Oh, I'm not pregnant."
Woman: "Well you look like it."
Me: stunned silence
Woman: "Well, get on it!"
Me: "I can't have children."
Woman: "My friend couldn' have babies. She had four, five of 'em and they just kep' dyin'"
Me: "Oh, that would have been tough. We've lost three."
Woman: "Yep, she just kep' havin' 'em and havin' 'em and they kept dyin'" (this was said very quickly as she retreated away)

10 comments:

Abby said...

Sounds like an incredibly mentally unstable lady. I'd avoid that one in the future, especially since it seems like she's the crazy rambling, never-shut-up type, either.

ChristinaS said...

OH Holly.. I'm so sorry.. I've been down that one before. It's humilating... Like Abby said, sounds a bit mental.. I would deffinantly avoid that situation for awhile...
HUGS honey...

onedayatatime said...

She sounds like the type of person that makes the entire ward cringe whenever she opens her mouth! I've had that happen to me, as well, and it's a rather uncomfortable situation! Is your ward a large size or fairly small? Does it at least meet in the Stake Center so you get later meeting times = later wake up on Sun mornings?!!

Holly said...

Cindy - the ward isn't too big. I don't think we're in the stake center, the building is on the small side and in the announcements they said something about a training meeting to be held in the stake center.

There is our ward and a spanish branch that meet in our building...that's it.

onedayatatime said...

Well, good luck with all of this. When we lived in Logan, I felt the same way as you did. I tried and tried to infiltrate myself into the ward and it just did not work. I attended all of meetings, went to every activity, and did all I could think of to do and I never felt comfortable ... then we moved to Louisville and wow, what a difference! I hope that minus this one quack, you will really love your ward there in Chicago and quickly find a home there.

Happy Herrons said...

True, that could make a great conversation starter with someone next week? At least you would be able to get some empathy for THOSE stupid comments (and sorry - she was mean and we all still love you and send you tons of HUGS). GO BACK. IT IS WORTH IT.

Max and Joy Chen said...

Wow! I've come to expect crap like that here, but not in the good Old US of A. Sounds like the lady wanting a ride home after her screw drivers. Just goes to show that those who are normal take a little time to be willing to come out of their shell. I'd take the fact that nobody else talked to you as a sign that there's only one quack in the ward. That's good right? Here's a big hug from me too. I have to say, I really look up to you. I have since high school. You can do no wrong in my book.(cheesy, I know, but the truth)

Rhode Island Kohls said...

big hug from me too oh wait, i can't move my right arm, so half a hug. What a crazy lady you had. There must be one strange person in each ward. We have one, i am sure you remember who and then there was another who bore testemony on what kind of mousetraps to use. never a dull moment.

Aimee said...

Sometimes I wish I had the moxie to say what I am really thinking to insensitive people like this woman. I guess my mother's Southern manners have rubbed off on me though. Something like: "Wow, you must have a ton of kids because you are way too old to be pregnant now! There is no way that flab is another baby." He, he, he. Yeah, I would never say it. Mom would be disappointed if she knew I thought it.

Bennett family said...

Oh my! A term I learned on my mission in England, "She's a nutter!" That's what came to mind when I read your entry. I remember when I was working at Good Earth a mom and daughter came in and I thought the daughter was pregnant. She wasn't. I did the whole foot in mouth thing! I was mortified! I'll never forget that. :)